Just Write {23}

February 20, 2012

We went out for an early Valentine dinner so we could get back for putting Elsie to bed. She needs me at bedtime. We didn’t say, Now no talking about the kids! Because usually I think of the things They say to do and not do and then I fail and think about it too much. So we just did our thing the best we could on that day.

We ended up not talking about the kids. I got curious about things I didn’t know, from life Before Us and so I asked a lot of questions and Ryan told me about road trips and moving to Arizona and the last time he saw his Grandma. I told him some stories too and we never run out of them, you know, if we just keep digging.

I remember my Grandpa saying that he learned something new about my Grandma every day. I couldn’t really believe that at the time but now I see, we all have so many many layers of experiences and parts to us.

We were walking to the car after dinner and we laughed about how we had told new stories and we made jokes like, Apparently we were people before we made people. I said, Hey…we didn’t even talk about the kids very much at all. That’s weird. And he said Yeah, and the way he said yeah was like he was sort of sad about that.

Then it just came out, not in a proud sort of way, but I said that our kids are very lucky to have us.

It was a rare thing, to pay a compliment to us, the two who are always feeling so small in the face of the enormous Parenting. But it’s true, they’re lucky. Almost as lucky as we are.


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Sarah@EmergingMummy February 20, 2012 at 9:28 pm

They are lucky. We are also lucky to have you, darling.
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Kim Van Brunt February 20, 2012 at 9:50 pm

That happens to me, too — when I get a glimpse of myself before children, and I think, “huh. I like that chick.” And then I realize that I am still her, just a little older, wiser. But that passion, the stories, the longings — they’re all there, if I’d just open my eyes and see. And I am glad, in better moments, that my kids have that chick. I just need to let her out to play a little more, so we can all hang out more often.
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Adventures in Babywearing February 20, 2012 at 9:54 pm

Oh man, yes. One of my hopes is that I am a good enough mother that makes my kids the lucky ones. And then I pray that for all the kids and parents out there.

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Katybeth February 20, 2012 at 10:14 pm

Your children are very lucky and they will just keep getting luckier. One of the greatest gifts my parents gave me, that I hope I can pass along to my son, is they had lives outside of me. This made it so much easier for me to come and go and to have my own life without feeling their every hope and story was pinned on me.
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tracy@sellabitmum February 20, 2012 at 10:42 pm

Oh what a nice thought. So perfect. And they are. They are so very lucky. xo
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debi9kids February 20, 2012 at 11:18 pm

Love your last line. Perfect.

Galit Breen February 20, 2012 at 11:44 pm

Lovely truth right here.

Not only that, but lovely truth that is so very rarely spoken, or looked at.

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Gianna February 20, 2012 at 11:50 pm

I love that thought because usually I think, “I hope I don’t ruin my kids!”
Woohoo! Way to go!
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Laura February 21, 2012 at 12:29 am

They ARE lucky, especially because they have a mother who knows that to love them, she must first love herself.

Emily February 21, 2012 at 7:46 am

I love this entry. That’s so neat what your Grandpa said about your Grandma and so true. It’s easy to feel like, “I know everything about my husband and he knows everything about me”, but you’re right, there is always more to know! I think it’s also great what you said about your kids being lucky and I agree. As a parent we are always our own worst critic but it’s good to see the positives in our parenting. Your children are lucky! :) Thank you for a great writing that brought a tear to my eye! I just started reading your blog and I love it!

Tricia February 21, 2012 at 8:27 am

“Apparently we were people before we made people.” So true! And so easy to forget. So often it is all ‘Mommy’ and ‘Daddy’ that I forget we are also ‘wife’ and ‘husband.’ And a dozen other things. Lovely reminder.

Elaine February 21, 2012 at 10:08 am

OH yes, you’re ALL so very lucky and blessed. I just adore that you paid the two of you a compliment! :)
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Corrina February 21, 2012 at 11:23 am

Your children are lucky~ a good reminder that we should compliment ourselves more.

Upstatemamma February 21, 2012 at 1:59 pm

That feeling is so awesome! I love when I feel like a mother I can be proud of. :)
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Amber February 21, 2012 at 5:21 pm

A wonderful thing indeed! I’m glad you got one of those, it’s all too rare.
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adriana willey February 21, 2012 at 11:01 pm

my favorite idea in this post is that if you keep digging into someone, there are always more stories to tell. this puts such a hopeful, never ending twist on relationships, especially the life long ones.
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Arline February 22, 2012 at 11:10 am

Thanks for sharing this lovely post they are lucky that their mother is always their to give some love and support to them..
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Tiffany February 22, 2012 at 11:11 am

Lucky, lucky indeed!
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